Why is it that we like to hear about other people’s failures? The German language even has a word for the pleasure that comes from learning of someone else’s troubles, failures, or humiliation: “schadenfreude”. I believe it’s because we like to know that we’re all vulnerable and not alone in our suffering. Misery, after all, does love company.
I’ve had my share of successes and made some mistakes along the way, just like every other human on the planet. My wish for you is that you use my experience to develop the awareness and skills to avoid at least some of those mistakes for yourself. If you’re up for that, join me on April 6th in Houston where you’ll learn how to get the recognition you want and deserve from your career.
P.S. For those of you who read about my commitment in last month’s newsletter, my training is going well!
Three Professional Blunders that Actually Saved My Career
I’ve had a very successful career by most standards. I achieved executive levels of one of the largest companies in the world and went on to start my own business. But I also failed along the way. No matter how successful they appear, everyone has either had or will have a career failure of some sort. As humans, we’re not going to get it all right.
My career blunders are especially common among women. Hopefully my experience will help you avoid a pitfall or correct course if you’re currently in the midst of a mistake. If any the following are familiar to you, I recommend signing up for my April 6th workshop, “The Art of Recognition”, to learn key skills of getting what you want out of your career.
Not Asking for Enough Money
Women too often undervalue their work. We’re also less likely to negotiate for more money when offers are made to us. Per Linda Babcock in her book Women Don’t Ask, only 7% of women attempt to negotiate starting salaries while 57% of men do so. I was seven years into my career when I moved to New York into the banking industry. Salaries were much higher in New York in general and especially in the banking industry at that time. I asked for what I thought was reasonable, but was reluctant to go too high for fear of losing the opportunity. My employer got a great deal with me! I later learned that I was paid significantly less than my peers. I had undervalued my experience even though none of my colleagues had my breadth of experience.
Trusting My Boss to Advocate for Me
I’ve had many good bosses throughout my career. I’ve also had several bad ones. Here’s the interesting thing: whether they were good or bad was not the determining factor as to whether my boss would advocate for me. It had much more to do with whether I was advocating for myself with them! Without an adequate understanding of what I was accomplishing, or without me communicating effectively about how I was adding value, they were less prepared to make my case for me when it came time. My good bosses were simply able to relay on my own argument for my professional worth! (Bad bosses didn’t really care either way. )
Take a Job Someone Else Wanted Me to Take
This blunder emerged from several common mistakes.
I wasn’t clear on my goals.
I neglected to relate the job to my strengths.
I gave more weight to someone else’s needs than my own.
I let my ego be swayed by a big title.
In the end, I didn’t even think I had the option of saying no. We always have an option. Whether we like it is another story.
On April 6th, I’ll be delivering a one day workshop that can help you overcome and avoid these blunders. You’ll learn practical strategies on how to communicate to be recognized and get what you want from your career. Register here.
The Art of Recognition: One day workshop to develop your skills on advocating for yourself and negotiating for what you want. April 6 in Houston. Register here.
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